Not everyone is going to like me. It's a hard fact of life. I still remember being rejected from "the cool kid's table" in preschool. Somehow I think we all assume that it's something we grow out of and that we'll be so much stronger and confident as adults. Not so. A few weeks ago I read a quote from Beth Redman that stated, "There is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally." I don't know about you, but I can be a fairly confident person until I receive a little criticism or feel rejection. Then, I melt into a puddle of insecurity. It's hard not to take things personally.
Lately the Lord has convicted me that it's just my pride being crushed and my ego being wounded. It's selfishness through and through. I recently heard a pastor say, "You can't hurt a dead person." If I'm really completely surrendered to Christ, dead to myself, then I won't be so affected by those things. I have to look at my heart every time I get offended or hurt by something and ask, "Am I surrendered or selfish here?" In truth it's not self-confidence that I need, it's Christ-confidence. It's not who I am but who He is that matters anyway! Sometimes it's very hard to understand why people don't like or accept you. Trust me, I struggle with it too. Every day I'm trying to remind myself that I am accepted and loved by God. My life, my confidence, my identity is in Him. His life alone is worth living, and mine can stay in the grave. After all, you can't hurt a dead person.